About 10 years ago our family underwent a major transition. Through a series of events and opportunities I found myself becoming a stay-at-home dad. Around the same time, the country music group Lonestar’s song “Mr. Mom” was a big hit. You might remember the lyrics:
Lost my job, came home mad, Got a hug and kiss and that's too bad.
She said “I can go to work until you find another job.”
I thought “I like the sound of that! Watch TV and take long naps!”
Go from a hand working dad to being Mr. Mom
I have to admit, I sort of thought that is what it would be like to! What a fool!!!! It wasn’t long (about 2 ½ minutes) until I realized that I had not had a clue as to what Mary’s life was like when I was working and she was at home. I had assumed it was one thing, and it turned out to something entirely different.
One of things that men can do that drives their wives absolutely nuts is to act like we know what it is like to walk in their shoes. Guys, trust me on this – we don’t. It is important that we understand (and communicate that we understand) how important the work of our wives is to us and to our family. When we turn to Ephesians 5 we are reminded that we men are to love our wives, and one of the most powerful ways that we can do that is to show her that we appreciate her and are deeply grateful for all that she does each day.
How can we do that? Here are a few suggestions:
- Ask her how her day was BEFORE talking about your day. Ask if she has had any downtime, and if not, make sure she gets some.
- Take the kids for a walk/bike ride/playground trip etc…
- Do the dishes and clear the dining table.
- Give her a chance to go out for lunch or dinner with a couple of friends
- Plan a date night. Take care of ALL of the details (babysitting, reservations, etc…)
Of course, one the best ways to show that we appreciate the jobs that our wives to is to actually do it ourselves once in a while! Encourage your wife to get away for an overnight or a weekend and then run the home like she does. No cheating by sending the kids to grandma’s or ordering out for each meal!
The comedian Jeff Foxworthy (I know I am on a country theme here, bear with me) once said something to the effect that women do 99% of the housework and men do 1%. “But see, women are not as proud of their 99% as men are of our one!”
Guys, lets make sure that statement isn’t true of us, and let’s make sure our wives know how proud we are of the work they do. “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies” – Proverbs 31:10
Here’s what’s happening:
- We really need some more volunteers for the Junior Worship ministry. Each Sunday morning the Junior Worship time consists of a Bible Story and then some sort of activity (craft/game/etc..). Our hope is to “pair” people up who are gifted in different areas. If you would be willing to lead a short Bible lesson or lead the group in an activity about 1 Sunday a month please see me or Beth Ressler.
- If you would like to be a part of our prayer chains (either via email or phone) please let me know this week, as we will be updating our lists.
- It is “Child Clearance Update” time once again. Everyone who has had clearances done in the past is still good to go. However, if you haven’t had them done, please see me ASAP.
- VBS Decorating will start up tomorrow from 6:30 – 8 pm and continue each Thursday night until VBS on June 11-15.
- The annual church picnic at West Earl Community Park is Sunday, June 10 at 10 am. Sign up board to bring food is posted in the sanctuary.
- The E.C. National Conference is May 30th – June 1st. I will not be in the office on those days.
- The Hispanic Church that meets here is hosting a Chicken BBQ at the church on Saturday from 10 am- 1pm.
I look forward to seeing everyone on Sunday! We will be celebrating Mother’s Day in a couple of different ways and will be looking at Esther’s brave decision to serve God. I encourage you to read Esther 4 this week. Mother’s Day is always a great Sunday to invite friends to join you in worship!